How to Not Run Out of Things to Say When Talking to Women
Not running out of things to talk about with women or friends depends on whether you are living a fulfilled life. When you're talking about the cooking class you did last week, and then talking about the tropical island trip you did in Thailand or you’re talking about how you met your favourite football athlete and even on how much you love your passions or day job. It all comes down to actually living and experiencing your life. The mentality of the old school PUA (pickup artist) is about DHV (demonstrating higher value) about your stripper ex girlfriend picking you up in a sports car is all bullshit, an active and interesting lifestyle will always make sure you have a tonne of cool and exciting things to talk about.
Here are some dating tips:
- Being in a state: normally I say this to my clients that when you’re ‘in a state’ you will find that conversations will just flow, you’re out of your shell a lot more and you're in a playful state. Ways of getting into a ‘state’ is listening to music before going on a date, this can really pump you up and motivate you to have a great night out.
- Don’t be too mysterious: don’t always remain aloof, reveal more about you, share your beliefs, your values, this is what makes you unique and a woman on a first date wants to find out more about you and how you're different from everyone else.
- “Tell me more about that...”, when she mentions something about a certain topic or a subject, either it be travelling to an exotic part of the world or her deep values and dreams; If you ask her specifics, it puts the focus and attention on her, then relate to her values which will flip the frame of her being invited on how you view the world. For example, she mentions that she's into netball, your reply is like this: “tell me more about netball, you must love playing it”. Listen to what she says and then relate by saying: “Yeah I love team sports also, me and the guys at indoor soccer had a win last week”. That would invite her asking questions about the indoor soccer.
- Enjoy the Silence: Most new guys to the dating world feel that ‘akward silence’ is the big killer in trying to connect with someone, so most they get nervous and start firing out the interview questions. The idea is not to be nervous instead embrace the silence, be relaxed look into her eyes and smile, shows your confidence and you're happy to be in her presence, you will also find that she will start asking you questions